Comments on: Does she sleep through the night? http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:25:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Amber http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-40364 Amber Mon, 15 Feb 2010 02:53:12 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-40364 Ah I know for a fact my baby wakes up too! We've gone through many phases of sleep patterns over the last year. We had a few months in the beginning of 6 hour stretches, then 3 or 4, and now as she approaches the one year mark (though she was a preemie so she's really only supposed to almost be 10 months) we've had some pretty horrid sleep regression and wakefulness. It's frustrating, but there's not really much I can do. I am so NOT comfortable with any form of sleep training. My baby needs me...it won't be forever...but it is for now. Ah I know for a fact my baby wakes up too! We’ve gone through many phases of sleep patterns over the last year. We had a few months in the beginning of 6 hour stretches, then 3 or 4, and now as she approaches the one year mark (though she was a preemie so she’s really only supposed to almost be 10 months) we’ve had some pretty horrid sleep regression and wakefulness. It’s frustrating, but there’s not really much I can do. I am so NOT comfortable with any form of sleep training. My baby needs me…it won’t be forever…but it is for now.

]]> By: Heather King http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-40301 Heather King Sun, 14 Feb 2010 23:44:02 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-40301 Thanks for this post. Of all my parenting decisions, I feel like co-sleeping is the one I've had to defend the most. Leaving a baby alone in a dark room for any reason just doesn't make sense to me - plus this has been a wonderful part of bonding, breastfeeding, and being a mom. I can't believe how having a child who (supposedly) sleeps through the night is considered a parenting credential. I used to work in the field of circadian clocks and any activity time course recorded for a new baby will show no consolidation of sleep/wakefulness into a day/night pattern before 3 months. This means that new babies who are said to sleep through the night are usually really ignored through the night. Older babies and toddlers continue to need snuggles, warmth, and breast milk at night. A baby who's cries are consistently ignored isn't sleep-trained, he's shut-down. Heather Thanks for this post. Of all my parenting decisions, I feel like co-sleeping is the one I’ve had to defend the most. Leaving a baby alone in a dark room for any reason just doesn’t make sense to me – plus this has been a wonderful part of bonding, breastfeeding, and being a mom.

I can’t believe how having a child who (supposedly) sleeps through the night is considered a parenting credential. I used to work in the field of circadian clocks and any activity time course recorded for a new baby will show no consolidation of sleep/wakefulness into a day/night pattern before 3 months. This means that new babies who are said to sleep through the night are usually really ignored through the night. Older babies and toddlers continue to need snuggles, warmth, and breast milk at night. A baby who’s cries are consistently ignored isn’t sleep-trained, he’s shut-down.

Heather

]]> By: phdinparenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-40282 phdinparenting Sun, 14 Feb 2010 22:45:57 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-40282 That was the case with my first one as well. While it was frustrating at times, I still resisted seeing him sleeping through the night as a key milestone to meet or as a trophy of good parenting or a good baby, which is how it is seen so often. That was the case with my first one as well. While it was frustrating at times, I still resisted seeing him sleeping through the night as a key milestone to meet or as a trophy of good parenting or a good baby, which is how it is seen so often.

]]> By: Flaunt Your Crunch! | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-18098 Flaunt Your Crunch! | PhD in Parenting Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:35:29 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-18098 [...] If another parent complains about how tired she is, tell her how well rested you are as a result of co-sleeping. Let her know that your baby wakes up less often as a result of being next to you and that you hardly wake up at all when you do need to tend to her needs. [...] [...] If another parent complains about how tired she is, tell her how well rested you are as a result of co-sleeping. Let her know that your baby wakes up less often as a result of being next to you and that you hardly wake up at all when you do need to tend to her needs. [...]

]]> By: Kimberly http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-16643 Kimberly Tue, 15 Sep 2009 12:08:39 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-16643 I know this is an older post, but I wanted to comment anyway! You are one fortunate mama! What you describe is certainly what I'd read about when pregnant, but not the experience of all co-sleeping mama/baby duos. I know for a fact that my babe wakes up many times a night! I know this is an older post, but I wanted to comment anyway! You are one fortunate mama! What you describe is certainly what I’d read about when pregnant, but not the experience of all co-sleeping mama/baby duos. I know for a fact that my babe wakes up many times a night!

]]> By: sandrar http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-16167 sandrar Thu, 10 Sep 2009 12:54:58 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-16167 Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post... nice! I love your blog. :) Cheers! Sandra. R. Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog. :) Cheers! Sandra. R.

]]> By: Guest Post: What’s Your Hurry? | Family Jewels - Canadian Family Blog http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-9808 Guest Post: What’s Your Hurry? | Family Jewels - Canadian Family Blog Mon, 13 Jul 2009 16:42:20 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-9808 [...] escape them. The well-meaning (mostly), but perhaps not so well thought out questions: •    Is he sleeping through the night? •    How much does she weigh? •    Has he started solids yet? •    Is she toilet [...] [...] escape them. The well-meaning (mostly), but perhaps not so well thought out questions: •    Is he sleeping through the night? •    How much does she weigh? •    Has he started solids yet? •    Is she toilet [...]

]]> By: Let me provoke you…and beg for your votes | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-9186 Let me provoke you…and beg for your votes | PhD in Parenting Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:09:51 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-9186 [...] is an effective discipline tool or if there is a better way, or challenging the notion that babies should sleep through the night and that if they don’t, you need to let them cry it [...] [...] is an effective discipline tool or if there is a better way, or challenging the notion that babies should sleep through the night and that if they don’t, you need to let them cry it [...]

]]> By: Let’s try another analogy | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-9173 Let’s try another analogy | PhD in Parenting Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:19:03 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-9173 [...] It could have been avoided if they didn’t have ridiculous pressure put on them by society to have their baby sleep through the night. [...] [...] It could have been avoided if they didn’t have ridiculous pressure put on them by society to have their baby sleep through the night. [...]

]]> By: phdinparenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/06/04/does-she-sleep-through-the-night/#comment-8140 phdinparenting Sat, 20 Jun 2009 22:21:06 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-8140 @persephone: People learn to be able to sleep alone with time. They don't need to be able to do it immediately after leaving the mother's womb. @persephone: People learn to be able to sleep alone with time. They don’t need to be able to do it immediately after leaving the mother’s womb.

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