Comments on: Cry it out (CIO): 10 reasons why it is not for us

By: phdinparenting

phdinparenting — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:36:44 +0000

The references are at the bottom of the article. In terms of the “other side”, here are my thoughts: http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/11/cry-it-out-cio-is-it-harmful-or-helpful/

By: phdinparenting

phdinparenting — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:27:21 +0000

The quote is from Dr. Sears, who attended a presentation by Dr. Michael Lewis at the AAP conference. It is quoted on his website and in the AAP news. Here is more information on Dr. Michael Lewis: http://rwjms.umdnj.edu/pediatric/divisions/ins_childdev/faculty/mlewis.html. Best of luck with your research.

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:21:09 +0000

Quit trying to scare parents looking for real answers. You base that on your own personal beliefs and read only things you want to hear. Present the other side and references and I might believe you.

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:09:30 +0000

Do some better research and stop trying to scare parents. You could at least present all the facts and all the research rather than one side from a series of sources that span 30 years. Michael Lewis? Who is this? Give me the reference. You have an agenda based on your own personal thoughts and you are scaring parents who try to find real answers.

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By: phdinparenting

phdinparenting — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:12:47 +0000

I have enough confidence in my own parenting decisions that I don’t feel guilt over other people’s criticisms of my choices. I appreciate good dialogue of the pros and cons of different options. I know, however, that I’m in the minority.

By: why so much hate

why so much hate — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:06:42 +0000

When my first born started fighting sleep, I read extensive literature on both sides (no cry sleep solutions and controlled crying solutions). What a mistake. I was basically left with the choice of either being a cold tormentor that will lead her son to become unable to forge sustainable relationships in his future. Or an indulging parent who denies her son the skill to learn how to fall asleep on his own. Oh yeah, and also by not having enough sleep he’d become a mediocre student later on at school.
I’m quite puzzled as to what would compel sleep specialists to add guilt to sleep deprived parents trying to find a solution to their children’s sleep issues – and find sleep for themselves. And quite honestly I don’t see why everyone wants to prove that the other approach is bad instead of just concentrating on the positive of the approach that they advocate.
Although the underlying philosophies of each approach are very different, if you read carefully, their technical implementations have a lot in common. Basically you want to log you child’s sleep, evaluate if he’s really lacking sleep or if you just have unrealistic expectations, and assess what the problem is. Both approaches rely on implementing consistent day-time routines. And making sure your child gets enough food during the day. And really, the only difference is if and how much crying you are going to allow when your child does not fall asleep on his own. As I see it, the controlled crying solutions are really just “the next step” when all else has failed and your child still adamantly refuses to sleep.
Now that I’m on maternity leave with my second son, I’m back on the parenting blogs/forums, and I see that the flaming war between no cry versus controlled crying parents is still going on. And whatever solution parents chose, they end up feeling guilty anyway, because the other side will criticize them.
At the end, we are all parents trying to do their best to raise well adjusted kids. I wonder why we can’t just offer support to parents who are dealing with a difficult sleep situation.

By: Candace

Candace — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 14:29:18 +0000

In bolded text, Annie offers her gentle baby and toddler sleep tips: http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/07/05/2009/02/28/gentle-baby-and-toddler-sleep-tips/

By: Travis

Travis — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 14:16:02 +0000

Ok so what do you do then?
You can’t go on and on about something and not give an alternative solution!

By: You Should Let Your Child Cry-It-Out | Parenting By The Minute

You Should Let Your Child Cry-It-Out | Parenting By The Minute — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 09:40:47 +0000

[...] that I do not advocate crying it out for babies as a method to teach self-soothing and sleep. And there’s plenty of research to back my position [...]