Comments on: Teach, don’t train http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Thu, 18 Mar 2010 08:44:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Melissa http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-18058 Melissa Wed, 30 Sep 2009 00:21:15 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-18058 semantics semantics

]]> By: It takes a village to raise a child | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-10820 It takes a village to raise a child | PhD in Parenting Fri, 31 Jul 2009 12:53:13 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-10820 [...] can take some of the burden off of us, but it requires a good dose of patience and a focus on teaching, not training our children. It requires confidence in our [...] [...] can take some of the burden off of us, but it requires a good dose of patience and a focus on teaching, not training our children. It requires confidence in our [...]

]]> By: Patient parenting | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-1461 Patient parenting | PhD in Parenting Wed, 04 Feb 2009 18:59:32 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-1461 [...] the time to teach your child and consider how what you are about to say will help your child (and don’t say it if it [...] [...] the time to teach your child and consider how what you are about to say will help your child (and don’t say it if it [...]

]]> By: Welcome to API Speaks - The Blog of Attachment Parenting International http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-378 Welcome to API Speaks - The Blog of Attachment Parenting International Mon, 05 Jan 2009 21:07:37 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-378 [...] the time to teach your child and consider how what you are about to say will help your child (and don’t say it if it [...] [...] the time to teach your child and consider how what you are about to say will help your child (and don’t say it if it [...]

]]> By: Abrupt « PhD in Parenting Blog http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-377 Abrupt « PhD in Parenting Blog Sun, 28 Dec 2008 04:05:08 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-377 [...] to learn. When transitions are necessary, make them gently, be patient, take the opportunity to teach and to explain.  Be sure to communicate, come up with solutions that will work for everyone, give [...] [...] to learn. When transitions are necessary, make them gently, be patient, take the opportunity to teach and to explain.  Be sure to communicate, come up with solutions that will work for everyone, give [...]

]]> By: Patient parenting « PhD in Parenting Blog http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-376 Patient parenting « PhD in Parenting Blog Mon, 15 Dec 2008 02:22:09 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-376 [...] the time to teach your child and consider how what you are about to say will help your child (and don’t say it if it [...] [...] the time to teach your child and consider how what you are about to say will help your child (and don’t say it if it [...]

]]> By: G http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-375 G Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:18:27 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-375 I believe in teaching and training. If my child happens upon a snake in the yard and I say "Stop, don't move!", I want them to be obedient. Their first instinct is going to be "why" and keep moving. Then, their own instinct may get them hurt. The teaching part will come after I have killed the snake. You can teach both and not ruin your children for life. I believe in teaching and training. If my child happens upon a snake in the yard and I say “Stop, don’t move!”, I want them to be obedient. Their first instinct is going to be “why” and keep moving. Then, their own instinct may get them hurt. The teaching part will come after I have killed the snake. You can teach both and not ruin your children for life.

]]> By: What I will tell my kids about sex « PhD in Parenting Blog http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-374 What I will tell my kids about sex « PhD in Parenting Blog Fri, 19 Sep 2008 03:50:53 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-374 [...] September 18, 2008 by phdinparenting As you may have gathered from my other posts, my goal for my children is not obedience. My goal is for them to be smart, to learn, and to make logical decisions on their own.  I want to teach them, not train them or tell them what to do. [...] [...] September 18, 2008 by phdinparenting As you may have gathered from my other posts, my goal for my children is not obedience. My goal is for them to be smart, to learn, and to make logical decisions on their own.  I want to teach them, not train them or tell them what to do. [...]

]]> By: chaos http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-373 chaos Sun, 31 Aug 2008 15:04:46 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-373 dvd's in the back of the car are one of my serious pet peeves theres a book out there about potty learning and that is what my family is calling it...i see it more as a process that happens over time...not one day we put away diapers and are trained Learning is messy, noisy, and often not pretty but they end result is knowing that you are capable! dvd’s in the back of the car are one of my serious pet peeves

theres a book out there about potty learning and that is what my family is calling it…i see it more as a process that happens over time…not one day we put away diapers and are trained

Learning is messy, noisy, and often not pretty but they end result is knowing that you are capable!

]]> By: Juli http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/28/teach-dont-train/#comment-371 Juli Fri, 29 Aug 2008 14:12:22 +0000 http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/?p=323#comment-371 I completely agree. I don't understand people who continue to live their own lives entirely separate from their children. My MIL can't understand why we insist on eating early with our LO at the table, for example - to set a good example of what dinner time is all about, duh! This is also why I hate child-specific places and activities, like "adult table and kids table" at a meal, or parks where you dump your kids in one area and the adults go to another area. I'm not an attachment parent by any means, but if your child never gets to see how you act, interact, and react, how are they supposed to magically learn their own social norms? Oh right. By training them. Agreed - my child is not a puppy. I completely agree. I don’t understand people who continue to live their own lives entirely separate from their children. My MIL can’t understand why we insist on eating early with our LO at the table, for example – to set a good example of what dinner time is all about, duh! This is also why I hate child-specific places and activities, like “adult table and kids table” at a meal, or parks where you dump your kids in one area and the adults go to another area. I’m not an attachment parent by any means, but if your child never gets to see how you act, interact, and react, how are they supposed to magically learn their own social norms? Oh right. By training them. Agreed – my child is not a puppy.

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