Comments on: Choice

By: Sara

Sara — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 21:05:33 +0000

I agree with much of this, but the part about not being judged, about society not viewing you as this or that… just strikes me as highly unrealistic and even an infringement on other people’s rights. You can and should be able to do what you want to do with your life, but judgement is part of the human experience and you can’t expect people to not hold opinions about you. Freedom cuts both ways.
That’s not to say we can’t work to educate and change harmful public opinions. But getting angry at others for holding opinions about you is just a waste of time.

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 17:30:54 +0000

We are limited in our choices by constraints and boundaries. We are tied to economic realities, relationships, proximity to support systems, geography, and many other factors that constrain our choices. For example for many women the decision to work is not really a “choice” although there are many that would like to construe it as a choice. Breastfeeding “choice” may be limited by birthing situations, support or lack thereof, etc. Our american culture loves to make everything about the individual and free will/choices over acceptance of one’s economic, social, political reality. We don’t (in America) paid maternity leave, enough support for breastfeeding, etc. With enought financial means, one can make more choices in line with one’s values. (To stay home or work, to seek support and information ahead of time to breastfeed, to hire out of hospital birth support, etc). Our society doesn’t value (in a tangible financial way) supporting mothers staying at home, etc, so in the mean time, we have to just “deal” with our economic reality and choices or lack thereof.

By: Lara

Lara — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 16:52:47 +0000

Just remember what can be said from the other point of view. I don’t want to be heartless and hurtful, so I concede that those who don’t are not selfish and stupid. There are just as many reasons not to as there are in support of… and it’s not my business to decide if someone else’s choice is right for them.

Annie, lovely article

By: Jess

Jess — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 22:47:28 +0000

This is like a beautiful prayer, and all I can add is AMEN.

By: jordan

jordan — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 09:51:30 +0000

and i want a million dollars

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