Comments on: SAH or WOH? How can we stop restricting mothers’ choices?

By: Canadian women: We’re fat, our kids are fat, and we’re letting other people raise our children | PhD in Parenting

Fri, 04 Feb 2011 17:56:47 +0000

[...] Why can’t people see past the statistics and the rhetoric and realize that the problem isn’t women or mothers? The problem is that our society is working against working mothers instead of evolving to create a better and more supportive environment for them. [...]

By: Let’s throw the assumptions out with the bathwater | PhD in Parenting

Let’s throw the assumptions out with the bathwater | PhD in Parenting — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 03:47:19 +0000

[...] no question of that. But my hope is that our struggles, and our victories, will pave the path for our daughters to have both the career and the family that they want to have and for our sons to do so [...]

By: Mandy

Mandy — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 20:37:20 +0000

Indeed, I’m going to ask if I can include this in a resource binder I’m compiling for a class. I’m in my second year of early childhood education studies.

By: Our Sentiments

Our Sentiments — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 06:47:31 +0000

I am in the middle. But also, not by choice. I would be perfectly happy staying home with just my daughter and caring for her all day – had we won the millions. I didn’t want to go back to work outside of the home. Not because I am ‘lazy’ (which is what people comment a lot on), but because I grew up with a mother at home and feel it’s important (for my family, please don’t take it the wrong way). I wanted that experience for our daughter. So the only options I had was to take my daughter with me (which no job would allow around here) or create my own business from home.

I do Home Daycare now and what you stated above (that some children are just not ready), is very true and I see it all the time. It’s sad, because I know the real problem, but professionally I can’t tell the parents because they don’t have a choice either. They have to work. I also have my Daycare issues as well, and I don’t feel like I am giving 100% to my daughter – even though I am here.

It’s very, extremely sad to hear that either side is not valued and a choice (or free will) is not given. Speaking on the side to stay home (because I wont speak about other sides that I have not been through), I would love my daughter to have the choice I never had. I would love to see a way where she could stay home (if she chooses) until her child is in school full time (BTW this F/T school thing would be a very interesting read from your perspective). I just don’t see it happening, and that is unfortunate really.

I think there is a better way and more cost effective. Why *just* pay subsidy Daycare? Why not give it to the mother who chooses to stay home too? Are they not doing the same thing, or could they be doing the same thing? And how is this forcing the parents to work creating better future adults? How about opening more accessible work from home jobs that are legit! It’s one thing when a parent loves their job and the child sees how their parents light up when they talk about work. I commend that, that means something. But forcing or creating an environment where the Mom (usually) wants to stay home but can’t because of money is just not acceptable from anywhere in this world.

Thank you for spelling out what means what, I was never very good at understand politics.

By: Jo

Jo — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 03:03:13 +0000

In addition to the 21 U.S. states with legislation supporting lactating women, the Federal health reform passed in March 2010 includes new national regulations supporting breastfeeding moms in the workplace.

http://www.ncsl.org/default.aspx?tabid=14389

By: Inspiring Change | PhD in Parenting

Inspiring Change | PhD in Parenting — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:42:55 +0000

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By: TheFeministBreeder

TheFeministBreeder — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 17:40:52 +0000

I’m glad this is the hot topic of the week. I’ve been throwing my own “it’s not fair” tantrum in my head for months and months about this (with a half-finished blog post in my “Draft” folder on Typepad.)

I’m a very “pull-yourself-up-by-your-boot-straps” kind of person. But I have been flat out angry – angry at myself, angry at my situation, and angry at my husband – because I have NO choice but to go to work. The fact that someone could even suggest that I leave my children every day voluntarily is simply INSULTING to me. I know a lot of moms work because they want to, but I am *not* one of them.

But some argue that everything is a choice, and I could simply choose not to feed my kids. Seriously? That’s a choice? Well, okay then, I guess I’d *rather* leave my kids than sit home watching them starve. Silly me.

By: Let me provoke you…and beg for your votes | PhD in Parenting

Let me provoke you…and beg for your votes | PhD in Parenting — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 04:05:20 +0000

[...] Questioning some of the idiocies in society in posts like bias against boys or out of sight, out of mind, out of job, or feminism, fathers and valuing parenthood. Challenging people to question things like religion and sin or consumerism. Getting people to think about our empathy deficit and lack of support for true choices for women. [...]

By: Pauline Marois: Profile of a feminist, mother, and leader of social change « PhD in Parenting Blog

Fri, 31 Oct 2008 03:29:38 +0000

[...] choices are still restricted and that it is not a true choice for many women with regards to whether they stay home or go back to work. However, in Quebec it is certainly closer to being a true choice than just about anywhere else in [...]

By: january

january — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 06:40:36 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing this incredibly resourceful info! I plan on putting it to great use!