Comments on: Patient parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Sat, 11 Feb 2012 15:24:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: If There Is a Silver Bullet, Your Toddler Probably Hid It — PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-208497 If There Is a Silver Bullet, Your Toddler Probably Hid It — PhD in Parenting Fri, 16 Dec 2011 04:08:07 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-208497 [...] bad days, when they do come up, are about survival. I try to remain calm and patient and channel those strategies that I’ve practiced during the good times. But I also try to [...] [...] bad days, when they do come up, are about survival. I try to remain calm and patient and channel those strategies that I’ve practiced during the good times. But I also try to [...]

]]> By: Random Questions, Random Answers | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-150869 Random Questions, Random Answers | PhD in Parenting Thu, 18 Aug 2011 03:58:51 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-150869 [...] I recommend patience and listening. It can be hard when they are melting down to listen to what they are saying, but I [...] [...] I recommend patience and listening. It can be hard when they are melting down to listen to what they are saying, but I [...]

]]> By: Ready to snap | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-91890 Ready to snap | PhD in Parenting Sat, 20 Nov 2010 04:48:47 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-91890 [...] of the time, I try to be patient when the kids are doing things that make me seethe. I can handle my kids being defiant if that is [...] [...] of the time, I try to be patient when the kids are doing things that make me seethe. I can handle my kids being defiant if that is [...]

]]> By: Age three: defiance with a smirk | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-57232 Age three: defiance with a smirk | PhD in Parenting Tue, 04 May 2010 21:08:46 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-57232 [...] to no downtime from one to the next, I’m not as patient as I would like to be. My lack of patience and my bad discipline choices (citing consequences I wish I hadn’t, offering rewards, [...] [...] to no downtime from one to the next, I’m not as patient as I would like to be. My lack of patience and my bad discipline choices (citing consequences I wish I hadn’t, offering rewards, [...]

]]> By: Abrupt | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-49521 Abrupt | PhD in Parenting Thu, 25 Mar 2010 18:49:23 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-49521 [...] adjust, to be given an opportunity to learn. When transitions are necessary, make them gently, be patient, take the opportunity to teach and to explain.  Be sure to communicate, come up with solutions [...] [...] adjust, to be given an opportunity to learn. When transitions are necessary, make them gently, be patient, take the opportunity to teach and to explain.  Be sure to communicate, come up with solutions [...]

]]> By: IComLeavWe: Day 3 | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-27068 IComLeavWe: Day 3 | PhD in Parenting Tue, 24 Nov 2009 04:11:00 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-27068 [...] I wrote about in toilet learning and poop terror. We still have challenges.  Even when we try to be patient and not push anything, it can still be stressful, like it continues to be with my daughter’s [...] [...] I wrote about in toilet learning and poop terror. We still have challenges.  Even when we try to be patient and not push anything, it can still be stressful, like it continues to be with my daughter’s [...]

]]> By: It Takes a Village to Raise a Child | Attachment Parenting International Blog http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-11322 It Takes a Village to Raise a Child | Attachment Parenting International Blog Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:55:15 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-11322 [...] to lead in developing their independence can take some of the burden off of us, but it requires a good dose of patience and a focus on teaching, not training our children. It requires confidence in our [...] [...] to lead in developing their independence can take some of the burden off of us, but it requires a good dose of patience and a focus on teaching, not training our children. It requires confidence in our [...]

]]> By: High Impact Mom » Blog Archive » Saturday Link Love: Lessons to Learned on the Internet Edition http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-10742 High Impact Mom » Blog Archive » Saturday Link Love: Lessons to Learned on the Internet Edition Thu, 30 Jul 2009 04:46:14 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-10742 [...] Patience IS a virture and it’s vital to enjoying your children according to PHDinParenting. [...] [...] Patience IS a virture and it’s vital to enjoying your children according to PHDinParenting. [...]

]]> By: TheFeministBreeder http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-4272 TheFeministBreeder Fri, 17 Apr 2009 16:49:03 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-4272 I blame those forums of "moms whose babies were born in the same month" for the rise in induction and c-section rates. It is sheer torture to sit around watching women due the same month (or two) going into labor, whilst your own body/baby seem perfectly content to stay pregnant until the end of time. So, women start rushing into the doctor, signing up for their inductions and interventions (even if they're not necessarily full term.) The way they see it, if a woman who was due 3.5 weeks before me has her baby already, why can't I have mine?!?!?! Then they come home with a nice big uterine scar and a story of a failed induction, and they wonder why it happened to them. That is certainly how I ended up with my uterine scar. Why? Pressure, internal and external, to rush your body through a process. I couldn't go near the forums during my last few weeks of my second pregnancy. If I saw another induction-turned-cesarean story I was going to lose my mind. On another note, when my son still wasn't walking at 16.5 months, I had no patience left. I was worried. Worried that there was something wrong; worried that he might be autistic. Panic flowed through my veins constantly. Then on the very day he turned 17 months old (2 days before our first interview with the developmental specialists) the boy just got up and started walking. And he walked like he had been walking the whole time. 2 days later the specialists said he appeared to be right on, or even ahead, of most other children's development. Since then I have realized that he will do whatever he's going to do whenever he decides he's going to do it - and not a minute sooner. This child has taught me patience better than any class or book or therapist ever could have. I blame those forums of “moms whose babies were born in the same month” for the rise in induction and c-section rates. It is sheer torture to sit around watching women due the same month (or two) going into labor, whilst your own body/baby seem perfectly content to stay pregnant until the end of time.

So, women start rushing into the doctor, signing up for their inductions and interventions (even if they’re not necessarily full term.) The way they see it, if a woman who was due 3.5 weeks before me has her baby already, why can’t I have mine?!?!?!

Then they come home with a nice big uterine scar and a story of a failed induction, and they wonder why it happened to them. That is certainly how I ended up with my uterine scar.

Why? Pressure, internal and external, to rush your body through a process. I couldn’t go near the forums during my last few weeks of my second pregnancy. If I saw another induction-turned-cesarean story I was going to lose my mind.

On another note, when my son still wasn’t walking at 16.5 months, I had no patience left. I was worried. Worried that there was something wrong; worried that he might be autistic. Panic flowed through my veins constantly.

Then on the very day he turned 17 months old (2 days before our first interview with the developmental specialists) the boy just got up and started walking. And he walked like he had been walking the whole time. 2 days later the specialists said he appeared to be right on, or even ahead, of most other children’s development.

Since then I have realized that he will do whatever he’s going to do whenever he decides he’s going to do it – and not a minute sooner. This child has taught me patience better than any class or book or therapist ever could have.

]]> By: Welcome to API Speaks - The Blog of Attachment Parenting International http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/14/patient-parenting/#comment-1531 Welcome to API Speaks - The Blog of Attachment Parenting International Sat, 07 Feb 2009 08:55:39 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=794#comment-1531 [...] with it. Instead, find a way to gently support your child through that transition. This requires patience, as so many aspects of parenting do, but I think a gentle approach in these situations is the most [...] [...] with it. Instead, find a way to gently support your child through that transition. This requires patience, as so many aspects of parenting do, but I think a gentle approach in these situations is the most [...]

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