Comments on: Night Owls http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/19/night-owls/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Sat, 11 Feb 2012 15:24:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: mudspice http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/19/night-owls/#comment-871 mudspice Mon, 22 Dec 2008 03:17:49 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=814#comment-871 This is agrest post! I am so happy you wrote me so that I cools come over to read your blog! I will definitly come back here often! It's so nice to find other parents with the same parenting philosophies and attitudes as I have! You are offering a wonderful service by sharing all of your learning to help others. I feel like I can relate to everything you write. I got avoid kick out of you mentioning that maybe your husband would read your blog because he doesn't read the parenting books. Mine too! Except no luck so far! It's wonderful to "meet" you! This is agrest post! I am so happy you wrote me so that I cools come over to read your blog! I will definitly come back here often! It’s so nice to find other parents with the same parenting philosophies and attitudes as I have! You are offering a wonderful service by sharing all of your learning to help others. I feel like I can relate to everything you write. I got avoid kick out of you mentioning that maybe your husband would read your blog because he doesn’t read the parenting books. Mine too! Except no luck so far!

It’s wonderful to “meet” you!

]]> By: Helen http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/19/night-owls/#comment-870 Helen Sat, 20 Dec 2008 17:02:42 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=814#comment-870 Hi there, I really enjoyed this article - it's so refreshing to read this approach to problems with babes and children's demands - So many parents today give in to their little one's demands and then find that they are unable to have any control at all. I believe in consistent parenting so much that I have written a whole web site dedicated to this approach. www.consistent-parenting-advice.com thanks for such a good article. Sincerely, Helen Hi there,
I really enjoyed this article – it’s so refreshing to read this approach to problems with babes and children’s demands – So many parents today give in to their little one’s demands and then find that they are unable to have any control at all.
I believe in consistent parenting so much that I have written a whole web site dedicated to this approach.
http://www.consistent-parenting-advice.com
thanks for such a good article.
Sincerely, Helen

]]> By: Alicja http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/12/19/night-owls/#comment-869 Alicja Sat, 20 Dec 2008 14:21:32 +0000 http://phdinparenting.com/?p=814#comment-869 We`re exacly on our first "no-no`s" now. Maya learned how to climb up the table and how to get in into my husbands computer corner. We are blessed with a child who knows what she wants. And like you said, the transition from fulfilling a baby`s needs to setting healthy boundaries for toddlers is difficult. I was talking about setting limits with my husband, but he just can`t say "no" to her, unless it`s about his computer corner. He finds explanations and excuses. We have just 10 days in US now, it will be a crazy 10 days and a big change. So we planned on working on it again after going home to Japan. It will definitely be the time to talk about limits to my husband again. Last few days we`re just taking turns - my husband carries her for 1-2min outside, without fighting, just after the first squeerm, and then I nurse her to sleep. I was suggested it may be about winning so as soon as we make it not so interesting anymore it should stop. I don`t know how good it is from parenting side, but it worked - tonight we didn`t take her at all, although she got up at 5am to play (it`s 7am now and she sleeps again). Like I said, we take turns so everybody is rested and work is done. Maya has plenty of late afternoon exercise - every day from 3 untill 5 we`re in the park. The only exeption is family gatherings that is tiring anyway. She runs, plays with other kids, feeds the ducks and has a lot of fun. I`m watching the bedtime meal. Lately she hardly has anything exept breastmilk and cheerios. She just doesn`t want to eat. She`ll eat broccoli and some meat/fish. And that`s it if it`s about her diner. We have constant bedtime, wake-up time and naptime. We have constant bedtime routine. We have winding down time, with darker house, moderate activity and no surprises. I let her run around the house naked after the bath, so it would be easier for her to drop her body temperature enough to fall asleep. With Maya it was always like that - as soon as we get a nice routine that works for everybody, as soon as I get used to it, as soon as I start expecting it happen she changes it. First she did it when she was 6mos old and I used to carry her to sleep in the wrap. One day she just didn`t want it and cried, she wanted to go to sleep in bed. Now we`re struggling with nightime againg and my guess is she wants to be carried again. It helps her calm down, otherwise it can last even up to 2h, in dark, closed room, with me in bed, nursing constantly. On a walk it`s 20min and she sleeps like an angel. :) We`re exacly on our first “no-no`s” now. Maya learned how to climb up the table and how to get in into my husbands computer corner. We are blessed with a child who knows what she wants. And like you said, the transition from fulfilling a baby`s needs to setting healthy boundaries for toddlers is difficult.
I was talking about setting limits with my husband, but he just can`t say “no” to her, unless it`s about his computer corner. He finds explanations and excuses. We have just 10 days in US now, it will be a crazy 10 days and a big change. So we planned on working on it again after going home to Japan. It will definitely be the time to talk about limits to my husband again.

Last few days we`re just taking turns – my husband carries her for 1-2min outside, without fighting, just after the first squeerm, and then I nurse her to sleep.

I was suggested it may be about winning so as soon as we make it not so interesting anymore it should stop. I don`t know how good it is from parenting side, but it worked – tonight we didn`t take her at all, although she got up at 5am to play (it`s 7am now and she sleeps again). Like I said, we take turns so everybody is rested and work is done.

Maya has plenty of late afternoon exercise – every day from 3 untill 5 we`re in the park. The only exeption is family gatherings that is tiring anyway. She runs, plays with other kids, feeds the ducks and has a lot of fun.
I`m watching the bedtime meal. Lately she hardly has anything exept breastmilk and cheerios. She just doesn`t want to eat. She`ll eat broccoli and some meat/fish. And that`s it if it`s about her diner.
We have constant bedtime, wake-up time and naptime. We have constant bedtime routine. We have winding down time, with darker house, moderate activity and no surprises. I let her run around the house naked after the bath, so it would be easier for her to drop her body temperature enough to fall asleep.

With Maya it was always like that – as soon as we get a nice routine that works for everybody, as soon as I get used to it, as soon as I start expecting it happen she changes it. First she did it when she was 6mos old and I used to carry her to sleep in the wrap. One day she just didn`t want it and cried, she wanted to go to sleep in bed. Now we`re struggling with nightime againg and my guess is she wants to be carried again. It helps her calm down, otherwise it can last even up to 2h, in dark, closed room, with me in bed, nursing constantly. On a walk it`s 20min and she sleeps like an angel. :)

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