Comments on: Inspiring Change http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Sat, 11 Feb 2012 15:24:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Sunday link love | Come Parent With Me http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-131938 Sunday link love | Come Parent With Me Sat, 28 May 2011 11:50:57 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-131938 [...] in doing so, incredibly refreshing. So, check out Phd in Parenting – especially this post – and, Her Bad [...] [...] in doing so, incredibly refreshing. So, check out Phd in Parenting – especially this post – and, Her Bad [...]

]]> By: Are you too invested in parenting highs? « ParentingInTheLoop's Blog http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-126836 Are you too invested in parenting highs? « ParentingInTheLoop's Blog Sat, 14 May 2011 13:46:11 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-126836 [...] do you think? In your quest to be the best parent that you can be while also being realistic about the fact that you are not a perfect parent, do you calmly swim [...] [...] do you think? In your quest to be the best parent that you can be while also being realistic about the fact that you are not a perfect parent, do you calmly swim [...]

]]> By: Amber http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-49535 Amber Thu, 25 Mar 2010 21:45:59 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-49535 Thanks for playing along in my link-up! I am going to take my turn to be arrogant and say that in fact, I do sort of think that I am a 'good enough' parent. However, that doesn't mean that I don't continually seek improvement. For me, the fact that I am continuing to seek improvement and that I view parenting seriously is the biggest sign that I actually am 'good enough'. Trying our best, with sincerity, is the most we can ever do. And I believe that by continuing to do it I am giving my kids the best start I can. I definitely come here for inspiration. And I think that, while sometimes our words might be different, we are really saying the same thing. That through blogging and striving we can become better parents, together. :) Thanks for playing along in my link-up!

I am going to take my turn to be arrogant and say that in fact, I do sort of think that I am a ‘good enough’ parent. However, that doesn’t mean that I don’t continually seek improvement. For me, the fact that I am continuing to seek improvement and that I view parenting seriously is the biggest sign that I actually am ‘good enough’. Trying our best, with sincerity, is the most we can ever do. And I believe that by continuing to do it I am giving my kids the best start I can.

I definitely come here for inspiration. And I think that, while sometimes our words might be different, we are really saying the same thing. That through blogging and striving we can become better parents, together. :)

]]> By: Things to write home about 2/1/09 | Feels Like Home http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-43560 Things to write home about 2/1/09 | Feels Like Home Sat, 27 Feb 2010 21:50:40 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-43560 [...] Annie at PhD in Parenting is thinking about what it means to be a good enough parent [...] [...] Annie at PhD in Parenting is thinking about what it means to be a good enough parent [...]

]]> By: Thuan http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-34164 Thuan Sat, 16 Jan 2010 03:53:59 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-34164 I found your blog on Casey's comments from Raising Smart Girls and I just started reading your blog, I think that's great that you have your goals as a parent. Just in a job for most people, there are objectives for their job. I just see your ideas for improving as a parent as your objectives. in the business world, we have objectives, do our job, go back and revisit our objectives and compare it to the job we have already done and then think about ways to improve. I think it's wonderful to always want to better yourself in all aspects of your life, not just parenting. I totally understand that trying to improve doesn't mean that you want everything to be perfect, because we all know there is no such thing as perfect! I remember my teacher reading a book to me when I was in school called, "How to be the perfect person in just three days." If you ever get a chance, check it out! I look forward to reading more of your blog. I've started my own as a coping strategies. I love blogs like yours and Casey because it is based on research. I want to research more, but don't have the time or energy so it's great to find sites like yours. Thank you for doing the leg work for us. It's great to have people agree and disagree with you because it makes everyone stop and think! Thank you! Thuan I found your blog on Casey’s comments from Raising Smart Girls and I just started reading your blog, I think that’s great that you have your goals as a parent. Just in a job for most people, there are objectives for their job. I just see your ideas for improving as a parent as your objectives. in the business world, we have objectives, do our job, go back and revisit our objectives and compare it to the job we have already done and then think about ways to improve. I think it’s wonderful to always want to better yourself in all aspects of your life, not just parenting. I totally understand that trying to improve doesn’t mean that you want everything to be perfect, because we all know there is no such thing as perfect! I remember my teacher reading a book to me when I was in school called, “How to be the perfect person in just three days.” If you ever get a chance, check it out!

I look forward to reading more of your blog. I’ve started my own as a coping strategies. I love blogs like yours and Casey because it is based on research. I want to research more, but don’t have the time or energy so it’s great to find sites like yours. Thank you for doing the leg work for us.

It’s great to have people agree and disagree with you because it makes everyone stop and think! Thank you!

Thuan

]]> By: “Don’t Judge Me” | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-17707 “Don’t Judge Me” | PhD in Parenting Sun, 27 Sep 2009 02:46:15 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-17707 [...] the way you feel, this blog may not be the place for you. This blog is about improving ourselves, inspiring change, evolving our culture, chipping away at the kyriarchy, and nudging society in a new direction. That [...] [...] the way you feel, this blog may not be the place for you. This blog is about improving ourselves, inspiring change, evolving our culture, chipping away at the kyriarchy, and nudging society in a new direction. That [...]

]]> By: Right, wrong and the evolution of culture | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-10610 Right, wrong and the evolution of culture | PhD in Parenting Tue, 28 Jul 2009 04:20:44 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-10610 [...] and over again. It is the line that I walk on this blog when writing about parenting and trying to inspire change. Sometimes I maintain my balance and sometimes I [...] [...] and over again. It is the line that I walk on this blog when writing about parenting and trying to inspire change. Sometimes I maintain my balance and sometimes I [...]

]]> By: Typology of the Bad Mother | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-7360 Typology of the Bad Mother | PhD in Parenting Sun, 07 Jun 2009 12:48:36 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-7360 [...] I also want to say that like @AmberStrocel, I’m going to reserve the term “bad mother” for those that are truly abusive or neglectful. That isn’t to say that I’m lining up to give “mother of the year” awards to every other type I’ve described, but I don’t think that it is helpful for me or anyone else to label someone as a bad mother if they are doing their best. Instead I think we should stop glamourizing “bad”, we should offer a helping hand to those that are struggling, we should be confident in our own parenting, and we should continue to think about how we could improve. [...] [...] I also want to say that like @AmberStrocel, I’m going to reserve the term “bad mother” for those that are truly abusive or neglectful. That isn’t to say that I’m lining up to give “mother of the year” awards to every other type I’ve described, but I don’t think that it is helpful for me or anyone else to label someone as a bad mother if they are doing their best. Instead I think we should stop glamourizing “bad”, we should offer a helping hand to those that are struggling, we should be confident in our own parenting, and we should continue to think about how we could improve. [...]

]]> By: Sylva http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-7264 Sylva Thu, 04 Jun 2009 20:43:21 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-7264 And semantics are so tricky. I really feel the label of "good enough" can be really positive - it removes the perfectionist, permits it not to enter (ie: my own perfectionist inside myself gets a reminder to chill out!). It is along the lines of being a good human being. You do what you can, on a daily basis, and it IS good enough. And I agree with babyready that those who aren't having a dialogue (internal or external) about parenting (which 90% of the time is done by observing my baby and going on instinct) are the ones you label "good enough" not being enough. And semantics are so tricky. I really feel the label of “good enough” can be really positive – it removes the perfectionist, permits it not to enter (ie: my own perfectionist inside myself gets a reminder to chill out!). It is along the lines of being a good human being. You do what you can, on a daily basis, and it IS good enough.

And I agree with babyready that those who aren’t having a dialogue (internal or external) about parenting (which 90% of the time is done by observing my baby and going on instinct) are the ones you label “good enough” not being enough.

]]> By: Corina http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/21/inspiring-change/#comment-7263 Corina Thu, 04 Jun 2009 20:35:05 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=954#comment-7263 I am not a good enough parent. There are many times where I have taken the easy way out when life gets way too hectic and I need a time out..... time to cope. I have not always been consistent. I think that this is true of many parents. BUT..... I do want to do right for my kids. I do want to encourage them, teach them, to offer them life experiences and give them confidence to go on. As a former teacher myself, I KNOW that there are many different types of kids. Teaching these kids required different approaches. Some required a gentle hand and soft encouragement. Some required strict structure. Some learned through reading, some by doing, some by tactile, some by listening. The trick was to address it all. Well, the same is true for parenting. As a matter of fact, what works for one child may not work for another. As they grow, we may need to adapt our methods accordingly. Children change, we should remain flexible with their needs. However, I honestly think we cannot keep up with what does not work for us and our own personality either. Trying to keep up with methods that don't jive with our own personalities and methods cause quick burn out. Good enough parenting, maybe not the point. But we do need to adapt what is good for our kids and make it work for us. I am not a good enough parent. There are many times where I have taken the easy way out when life gets way too hectic and I need a time out….. time to cope. I have not always been consistent. I think that this is true of many parents. BUT….. I do want to do right for my kids. I do want to encourage them, teach them, to offer them life experiences and give them confidence to go on. As a former teacher myself, I KNOW that there are many different types of kids. Teaching these kids required different approaches. Some required a gentle hand and soft encouragement. Some required strict structure. Some learned through reading, some by doing, some by tactile, some by listening. The trick was to address it all. Well, the same is true for parenting. As a matter of fact, what works for one child may not work for another. As they grow, we may need to adapt our methods accordingly. Children change, we should remain flexible with their needs. However, I honestly think we cannot keep up with what does not work for us and our own personality either. Trying to keep up with methods that don’t jive with our own personalities and methods cause quick burn out. Good enough parenting, maybe not the point. But we do need to adapt what is good for our kids and make it work for us.

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