Comments on: What gives you the right? http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Sat, 11 Feb 2012 15:24:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Gidişat | Blogcu Anne http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-226968 Gidişat | Blogcu Anne Mon, 16 Jan 2012 08:03:40 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-226968 [...] bir yazısı var: “What gives you the right?” — Türkçesi: Size bu hakkı kim [...] [...] bir yazısı var: “What gives you the right?” — Türkçesi: Size bu hakkı kim [...]

]]> By: An awful lot of effing links « blue milk http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-223242 An awful lot of effing links « blue milk Sun, 08 Jan 2012 13:38:59 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-223242 [...] is food, not waste) or to sex (nursing is feeding, not sexual activity). In response to the “what if a child sees THAT?” questions from those against nursing in public, most breastfeeding advocates will argue that is [...] [...] is food, not waste) or to sex (nursing is feeding, not sexual activity). In response to the “what if a child sees THAT?” questions from those against nursing in public, most breastfeeding advocates will argue that is [...]

]]> By: Moms Want To See Breastfeeding On Sesame Street | Care2 Causes http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-221539 Moms Want To See Breastfeeding On Sesame Street | Care2 Causes Thu, 05 Jan 2012 03:54:09 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-221539 [...] is food, not waste) or to sex (nursing is feeding, not sexual activity). In response to the “what if a child sees THAT?” questions from those against nursing in public, most breastfeeding advocates will argue that is [...] [...] is food, not waste) or to sex (nursing is feeding, not sexual activity). In response to the “what if a child sees THAT?” questions from those against nursing in public, most breastfeeding advocates will argue that is [...]

]]> By: Elif Doğan http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-219781 Elif Doğan Mon, 02 Jan 2012 19:57:58 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-219781 Hey there - this is my first post on your blog. I'm a follower (and a fellow blogger) from Istanbul, Turkey. I'm also the founding leader of the movement we call here the "Breastfeeding Reform", which is a social awareness campaign which advocates that women should get 6 months of paid maternity leave, based on the World Health Organization's argument that babies should be exclusively breastfed for the first six months. Anyway, here in Turkey, breastfeeding in public is not a big deal, at least in rural areas. When you start looking at the urban places, i.e. a "civilized" city such as Istanbul, you start seeing people look down on women that choose to breastfeed in public, without cover, but it is rare. It is a pity that the more "civilized" a society gets, the more it gets disconnected from the natural aspects of life. Breastfeeding is one, natural birth is another. I wholeheartedly agree with your post, though I cannot bring myself to understand why would people not want their children to -at least- know that milk comes our of breasts and babies drink it. Anyway, I agree that it's THEIR problem, not yours. Hey there – this is my first post on your blog. I’m a follower (and a fellow blogger) from Istanbul, Turkey. I’m also the founding leader of the movement we call here the “Breastfeeding Reform”, which is a social awareness campaign which advocates that women should get 6 months of paid maternity leave, based on the World Health Organization’s argument that babies should be exclusively breastfed for the first six months.

Anyway, here in Turkey, breastfeeding in public is not a big deal, at least in rural areas. When you start looking at the urban places, i.e. a “civilized” city such as Istanbul, you start seeing people look down on women that choose to breastfeed in public, without cover, but it is rare.

It is a pity that the more “civilized” a society gets, the more it gets disconnected from the natural aspects of life. Breastfeeding is one, natural birth is another.

I wholeheartedly agree with your post, though I cannot bring myself to understand why would people not want their children to -at least- know that milk comes our of breasts and babies drink it. Anyway, I agree that it’s THEIR problem, not yours.

]]> By: Is there anything worse than people who perpetuate stereotypes? — PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-198674 Is there anything worse than people who perpetuate stereotypes? — PhD in Parenting Wed, 30 Nov 2011 04:23:19 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-198674 [...] of us don’t like being called mommy bloggers. Usually it is me sitting here, writing about how ridiculous it is when people claim that they don’t want to have to explain things do their.... Or explaining why, in some circumstances, “I don’t know” is the best answer you [...] [...] of us don’t like being called mommy bloggers. Usually it is me sitting here, writing about how ridiculous it is when people claim that they don’t want to have to explain things do their…. Or explaining why, in some circumstances, “I don’t know” is the best answer you [...]

]]> By: Do mothers openly breastfeeding in public make you uncomforable? Yeah, me too. | loraleeslooneytunes.com http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-144727 Do mothers openly breastfeeding in public make you uncomforable? Yeah, me too. | loraleeslooneytunes.com Tue, 19 Jul 2011 06:26:19 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-144727 [...] Or read Annie’s. [...] [...] Or read Annie’s. [...]

]]> By: 50 Reasons for Breastfeeding Anytime, Anywhere | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-116115 50 Reasons for Breastfeeding Anytime, Anywhere | PhD in Parenting Mon, 21 Mar 2011 19:04:04 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-116115 [...] Children need to see breasts being used to feed babies before they are introduced to them as sex obj.... This means that they should see their own mother (if possible) and other mothers breastfeeding, so [...] [...] Children need to see breasts being used to feed babies before they are introduced to them as sex obj…. This means that they should see their own mother (if possible) and other mothers breastfeeding, so [...]

]]> By: Lorette Lavine http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-114691 Lorette Lavine Mon, 14 Mar 2011 14:46:27 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-114691 Many years ago I went to eat at a restaurant with my baby daughter in a West Palm Beach Mall and when the hostess seated us she asked me if I planned to breast feed my daughter. She told me there was a lounge in the restroom. I was appalled... it makes me sad that so many years later not much has changed. So much changes and yet so much stays the same. Education and acceptance cannot be over emphasized. Many years ago I went to eat at a restaurant with my baby daughter in a West Palm Beach Mall and when the hostess seated us she asked me if I planned to breast feed my daughter. She told me there was a lounge in the restroom. I was appalled… it makes me sad that so many years later not much has changed.
So much changes and yet so much stays the same. Education and acceptance cannot be over emphasized.

]]> By: Heather http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-114112 Heather Fri, 11 Mar 2011 23:33:53 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-114112 From one larger lady to another: do what makes your baby happy & YOU comfortable. I just don't think those covers are much more discreet than just letting everyone see. I'm about a size 20 and a DDD cup while nursing, so definitely not Twiggy. I can sew, so I have the advantage of slings in a size that work well for me, and all the breastfeeding tops I want to make. So the worst anyone might see is a nipple. Even so, I had a much harder time with baby 1 than baby 2. My first was a little early, and under 6 pounds, and a week in NICU with pumped milk in bottles meant that breastfeeding did NOT get off to an easy start. She was 6 months old before it got easy. My second was full-term, almost 10 pounds, and we both knew what we were doing from the get-go. I'm expecting my third baby in August, and, after almost 4 solid years of nursing, I practically know how to nurse discreetly while swinging from the chandeliers. From one larger lady to another: do what makes your baby happy & YOU comfortable. I just don’t think those covers are much more discreet than just letting everyone see. I’m about a size 20 and a DDD cup while nursing, so definitely not Twiggy. I can sew, so I have the advantage of slings in a size that work well for me, and all the breastfeeding tops I want to make. So the worst anyone might see is a nipple. Even so, I had a much harder time with baby 1 than baby 2. My first was a little early, and under 6 pounds, and a week in NICU with pumped milk in bottles meant that breastfeeding did NOT get off to an easy start. She was 6 months old before it got easy. My second was full-term, almost 10 pounds, and we both knew what we were doing from the get-go. I’m expecting my third baby in August, and, after almost 4 solid years of nursing, I practically know how to nurse discreetly while swinging from the chandeliers.

]]> By: PRD http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/13/what-gives-you-the-right/#comment-114023 PRD Fri, 11 Mar 2011 17:11:37 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1341#comment-114023 I think the comment about your husband having to choose not to look after he has already seen it is just part of living with millions of other people on this Earth (I suppose technically he *could* get around town without looking above people's waists and he'd reduce the chances of seeing breasts, but that's not realistic, LOL). While I don't agree with the cockiness that some women have with purposefully flashing people, I definitely don't think we can all walk around on eggshells for fear that someone might see/smell/hear something that they wish they hadn't. If that were the case, I would propose that the news channels and papers stop reporting on things that break my heart but cannot be changed (can I really do anything about the child who was murdered by her parents? If you want to report on post partum depression or mental breakdowns, so be it, but do I really need the details about this death?), perfumes be made illegal because they irritate other people's noses and mostly contain carcinogens, etc. Yes, I think it's great to be respectful of others, but we all have different ideas of what is respectful (showing arm? showing ankles? making eye contact? heck, I know women who are insulted when someone tries to help them with their stroller!), and honestly I just think that if the other person doesn't have bad intentions, we need to chalk it up to living on a populated planet. *shrug* Give people the benefit of the doubt, put on our big girl panties and move on. I think the comment about your husband having to choose not to look after he has already seen it is just part of living with millions of other people on this Earth (I suppose technically he *could* get around town without looking above people’s waists and he’d reduce the chances of seeing breasts, but that’s not realistic, LOL). While I don’t agree with the cockiness that some women have with purposefully flashing people, I definitely don’t think we can all walk around on eggshells for fear that someone might see/smell/hear something that they wish they hadn’t. If that were the case, I would propose that the news channels and papers stop reporting on things that break my heart but cannot be changed (can I really do anything about the child who was murdered by her parents? If you want to report on post partum depression or mental breakdowns, so be it, but do I really need the details about this death?), perfumes be made illegal because they irritate other people’s noses and mostly contain carcinogens, etc. Yes, I think it’s great to be respectful of others, but we all have different ideas of what is respectful (showing arm? showing ankles? making eye contact? heck, I know women who are insulted when someone tries to help them with their stroller!), and honestly I just think that if the other person doesn’t have bad intentions, we need to chalk it up to living on a populated planet. *shrug* Give people the benefit of the doubt, put on our big girl panties and move on.

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