Comments on: Teaching Tolerance http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Sat, 11 Feb 2012 15:24:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: The Science of Evil and Empathy | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-147245 The Science of Evil and Empathy | PhD in Parenting Sun, 31 Jul 2011 01:43:41 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-147245 [...] Nature, Nurture and More : Books that Influenced Me The Empathy Deficit Teaching Tolerance Progressive Parenting from a Position of Privilege (read the comments for great ideas) // [...] [...] Nature, Nurture and More : Books that Influenced Me The Empathy Deficit Teaching Tolerance Progressive Parenting from a Position of Privilege (read the comments for great ideas) // [...]

]]> By: The Bad Moms Club | Sometimes Bad Moms Think It Best To Stay Quiet http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-124721 The Bad Moms Club | Sometimes Bad Moms Think It Best To Stay Quiet Tue, 03 May 2011 13:25:43 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-124721 [...] to my kids about history is important. Teaching them about diversity and injustices and privilege is important. But purposely opening this particular can of worms and [...] [...] to my kids about history is important. Teaching them about diversity and injustices and privilege is important. But purposely opening this particular can of worms and [...]

]]> By: Progressive parenting from a position of privilege? | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-65399 Progressive parenting from a position of privilege? | PhD in Parenting Fri, 18 Jun 2010 20:48:23 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-65399 [...] These are my dreams and my aspirations as a parent. I sometimes write about teaching my children to embrace diversity, to not be closed minded, to be creative, and to be empathetic. Those are all things that I think [...] [...] These are my dreams and my aspirations as a parent. I sometimes write about teaching my children to embrace diversity, to not be closed minded, to be creative, and to be empathetic. Those are all things that I think [...]

]]> By: No Sinners in My House | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-17930 No Sinners in My House | PhD in Parenting Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:12:12 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-17930 [...] also want my children to be open and tolerant. I want them to embrace peoples’ differences. I want them to get to know people from [...] [...] also want my children to be open and tolerant. I want them to embrace peoples’ differences. I want them to get to know people from [...]

]]> By: The bully who defined me | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-10933 The bully who defined me | PhD in Parenting Sun, 02 Aug 2009 03:46:08 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-10933 [...] I don’t know about it? There are great resources out there on bullying, I know that. I try to teach my children to be tolerant of people that are different from them, as does our school system. But I still feel somewhat helpless. As does my [...] [...] I don’t know about it? There are great resources out there on bullying, I know that. I try to teach my children to be tolerant of people that are different from them, as does our school system. But I still feel somewhat helpless. As does my [...]

]]> By: Jessica http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-3061 Jessica Tue, 24 Mar 2009 01:20:16 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-3061 Respect can be such a sticky topic. I agree that all humans deserve respect and that the give & take of respect (as TwinToddlersDad says) is best learned through modeling. I find it so difficult to teach my son to respect people when most every adult with whom we come into contact exhibits rude, thoughtless behavior. I am so glad to see this issue being raised--parents are the first teachers & our lessons must be well modeled. Respect can be such a sticky topic. I agree that all humans deserve respect and that the give & take of respect (as TwinToddlersDad says) is best learned through modeling. I find it so difficult to teach my son to respect people when most every adult with whom we come into contact exhibits rude, thoughtless behavior. I am so glad to see this issue being raised–parents are the first teachers & our lessons must be well modeled.

]]> By: TwinToddlersDad http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-3021 TwinToddlersDad Sun, 22 Mar 2009 21:38:48 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-3021 I think the best way to teach respect is to consistently demonstrate it to your children. How we behave with them as parents will teach them how they should behave with others. Great post and thanks for the reminder! I think the best way to teach respect is to consistently demonstrate it to your children. How we behave with them as parents will teach them how they should behave with others.

Great post and thanks for the reminder!

]]> By: phdinparenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-3012 phdinparenting Sun, 22 Mar 2009 14:39:43 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-3012 @ Lindsay - I agree! Respect is a better word. I meant to raise that issue too, but forgot to in the end. They had a great conversation about that on CBC Radio a while back that I enjoyed listening to. I think we need to both respect and even celebrate the differences between people and at the same time foster an environment for respectful debate and discourse about ideas. @ Lindsay – I agree! Respect is a better word. I meant to raise that issue too, but forgot to in the end. They had a great conversation about that on CBC Radio a while back that I enjoyed listening to. I think we need to both respect and even celebrate the differences between people and at the same time foster an environment for respectful debate and discourse about ideas.

]]> By: Lindsay @ Kickypants http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/03/21/teaching-tolerance/#comment-3011 Lindsay @ Kickypants Sun, 22 Mar 2009 14:04:30 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1052#comment-3011 Great post! I love the concept of ideas needing to earn respect, and the distinction between ideas and people. Teaching Tolerance has some great resources for parents and teachers. The site is run by the Southern Poverty Law Center - a pillar of the American Civil Rights Movement - they do great things. I have to argue with the word 'Tolerance', though. Its an issue I've had with the SPLC site since I discovered it. I hope that we strive for teaching our children more than simple tolerance of others. Tolerance, to me, implies a sort of 'putting up with it' attitude (although I know this is not what you are intending!). As if simply tolerating someone's difference were enough. So when it comes to anti-oppression and educating our children on these issues, I think Respect is a better word to use - as in the theme of your post. I do think tolerance is useful when talking about dealing with differing opinions, especially opinions that we really, really disagree with. Sometimes tolerance is the best I can hope for when reading stuff online (The Case Against Breastfeeding anyone?) Cultivating a tolerant attitude allows me to get my point across much more effectively, and is less likely to result in name-calling and personal attacks. Thanks for giving me something deep to think about on this Sunday morning. BTW if you want another great resource for working with kids on these issues, check out http://www.antiracistparent.com/ Great post! I love the concept of ideas needing to earn respect, and the distinction between ideas and people. Teaching Tolerance has some great resources for parents and teachers. The site is run by the Southern Poverty Law Center – a pillar of the American Civil Rights Movement – they do great things.

I have to argue with the word ‘Tolerance’, though. Its an issue I’ve had with the SPLC site since I discovered it. I hope that we strive for teaching our children more than simple tolerance of others. Tolerance, to me, implies a sort of ‘putting up with it’ attitude (although I know this is not what you are intending!). As if simply tolerating someone’s difference were enough. So when it comes to anti-oppression and educating our children on these issues, I think Respect is a better word to use – as in the theme of your post.

I do think tolerance is useful when talking about dealing with differing opinions, especially opinions that we really, really disagree with. Sometimes tolerance is the best I can hope for when reading stuff online (The Case Against Breastfeeding anyone?) Cultivating a tolerant attitude allows me to get my point across much more effectively, and is less likely to result in name-calling and personal attacks.

Thanks for giving me something deep to think about on this Sunday morning. BTW if you want another great resource for working with kids on these issues, check out http://www.antiracistparent.com/

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