Comments on: To tandem or not to tandem (Part 2 of series on preparing for baby #2) http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Sat, 11 Feb 2012 15:24:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: phdinparenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-113110 phdinparenting Mon, 07 Mar 2011 02:19:14 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-113110 MommaTwo: Do you really think the moms are holding down their Kid#1 and forcing them to nurse? Child-led weaning allows children to seek independence at their own pace. Allowing children to develop at their own pace rather than forcing them to be independent before they are ready, will make them more secure in their independence. MommaTwo:

Do you really think the moms are holding down their Kid#1 and forcing them to nurse? Child-led weaning allows children to seek independence at their own pace. Allowing children to develop at their own pace rather than forcing them to be independent before they are ready, will make them more secure in their independence.

]]> By: MommaTwo http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-113047 MommaTwo Sun, 06 Mar 2011 22:41:46 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-113047 This tandem nursing business sounds unnatural and weird to me, but each to their own. These poor #1 kids are being emotionally crippled and deprived of independence, and these moms seems to drag out the nursing experience more for their own strange satisfaction than the toddlers'. There's a reason why mother birds push their nestlings out of the nest, think about it. This tandem nursing business sounds unnatural and weird to me, but each to their own. These poor #1 kids are being emotionally crippled and deprived of independence, and these moms seems to drag out the nursing experience more for their own strange satisfaction than the toddlers’. There’s a reason why mother birds push their nestlings out of the nest, think about it.

]]> By: Dating your kids: Highly recommended http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-14181 Dating your kids: Highly recommended Mon, 31 Aug 2009 03:18:47 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-14181 [...] love both of my kids and they generally get along well. I wrote a series of posts about how bringing a second child into your family doesn’t have to be as scary as [...] [...] love both of my kids and they generally get along well. I wrote a series of posts about how bringing a second child into your family doesn’t have to be as scary as [...]

]]> By: What on earth were we thinking? (Part 1 of series on preparing for baby #2) http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-14180 What on earth were we thinking? (Part 1 of series on preparing for baby #2) Mon, 31 Aug 2009 02:39:12 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-14180 [...] Part 2:  To tandem or not to tandem [...] [...] Part 2:  To tandem or not to tandem [...]

]]> By: Move over: making room for 1 more in the bed (Part 3 of a series on preparing for baby #2) | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-7268 Move over: making room for 1 more in the bed (Part 3 of a series on preparing for baby #2) | PhD in Parenting Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:57:09 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-7268 [...] This is the second post in a series on preparing for a second baby. If you haven’t read it already, check out the first part What on earth were we thinking? and the second part To tandem or not to tandem. [...] [...] This is the second post in a series on preparing for a second baby. If you haven’t read it already, check out the first part What on earth were we thinking? and the second part To tandem or not to tandem. [...]

]]> By: Alina http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-7101 Alina Tue, 02 Jun 2009 02:32:05 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-7101 I love your description of figuratively nursing your older child. This is absolutely what I had to do when my second came along and what I still do. There are so many times when I wish I could clone myself for my husband, for me and for each child. But I just make due with the balancing act! I also learned how to hold my first child while nursing my second. They could both fit on my lap and snuggle with me. I love your description of figuratively nursing your older child. This is absolutely what I had to do when my second came along and what I still do. There are so many times when I wish I could clone myself for my husband, for me and for each child. But I just make due with the balancing act! I also learned how to hold my first child while nursing my second. They could both fit on my lap and snuggle with me.

]]> By: Al_Pal http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-7096 Al_Pal Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:49:12 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-7096 Aww. Heartwarming stories! :D Aww. Heartwarming stories! :D

]]> By: Upstatemomof3 http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-7073 Upstatemomof3 Mon, 01 Jun 2009 18:17:56 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-7073 MY son was almost four when my daughter was born and he had never been nursed but that last paragraph describes us to a t. He needed me to put her down and focus solely on him sometimes. And now she is only nine months old and we are expecting a third sometime in the fall or winter - I am guessing I will nurse both. :) MY son was almost four when my daughter was born and he had never been nursed but that last paragraph describes us to a t. He needed me to put her down and focus solely on him sometimes. And now she is only nine months old and we are expecting a third sometime in the fall or winter – I am guessing I will nurse both. :)

]]> By: phdinparenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-7066 phdinparenting Mon, 01 Jun 2009 15:41:01 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-7066 I just updated the post with an additional quote from robin (woowoomama) that went missing somehow in our email correspondence. I just updated the post with an additional quote from robin (woowoomama) that went missing somehow in our email correspondence.

]]> By: Kara http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/05/31/to-tandem-or-not-to-tandem-part-2-of-series-on-preparing-for-baby-2/#comment-7061 Kara Mon, 01 Jun 2009 14:06:12 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=1858#comment-7061 Thank you for this post! I am still nursing my almost 3 year old and my now one year old. There were some moments during my pregnancy when I thought my, at the time 2 year old, might wean, but he did not. I'm thankful that he is getting the chance, like his older sister, to stop nursing when he is ready and not before then. It was SUCH a relief to me to have care providers (my ob and my children's pediatrician) who were educated about breastfeeding during pregnancy and about tandem nursing! I do believe I would have made this choice even w/o their support, but hearing so many stories from women who stopped nursing because their Dr. told them they were actually doing harm to their baby or their toddler really makes me thankful for my care providers. I know that everyone is not so blessed. I know these days as a nursing triad are probably dwindling to a close (my older nusling now goes a day or two sometimes between asking to nurse) so I am trying to enjoy them and my tandem nursing days while I can. Thank you again, for these words & the resources you listed! Thank you for this post!

I am still nursing my almost 3 year old and my now one year old. There were some moments during my pregnancy when I thought my, at the time 2 year old, might wean, but he did not. I’m thankful that he is getting the chance, like his older sister, to stop nursing when he is ready and not before then.

It was SUCH a relief to me to have care providers (my ob and my children’s pediatrician) who were educated about breastfeeding during pregnancy and about tandem nursing! I do believe I would have made this choice even w/o their support, but hearing so many stories from women who stopped nursing because their Dr. told them they were actually doing harm to their baby or their toddler really makes me thankful for my care providers. I know that everyone is not so blessed.

I know these days as a nursing triad are probably dwindling to a close (my older nusling now goes a day or two sometimes between asking to nurse) so I am trying to enjoy them and my tandem nursing days while I can.

Thank you again, for these words & the resources you listed!

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