Comments on: Child’s Hierarchy of Needs http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/ ...exploring the art and science of parenting Sat, 11 Feb 2012 15:24:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Em http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-226465 Em Sat, 14 Jan 2012 18:18:32 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-226465 This is an excellent point, and it dovetails nicely with the later point about children having a low tolerance for insecurity. I had many emotional problems as a child, despite the fact that my parents were loving, non-abusive and could provide for me. Because I was precocious with language and read and wrote early, I suspect that my parents assumed I was advanced in other ways as well, when I wasn't. My childhood was spent feeling fearful, insecure, and using dysfunctional ham-handed methods to try and carve out a niche where I felt safe. Authority figures were mystified by my acting out and nothing they did addressed my real problem. I was bullied mercilessly, but most adults were apathetic about it because I had already been branded as a kid with a "bad attitude". Nobody asked the right questions and I was never lucky enough to know the right words to express my feelings in a way anyone understood. To this day, on a primal level I assume that the world is a frightening place filled with failure and rejection, and that I have no inherent right to exist. I see a huge difference between myself and people who were raised by families who made an effort to address their insecurities, whether consciously or unconsciously. If I had been that lucky, I would have accomplished much more in life by now. Let this be a cautionary tale. This is an excellent point, and it dovetails nicely with the later point about children having a low tolerance for insecurity. I had many emotional problems as a child, despite the fact that my parents were loving, non-abusive and could provide for me. Because I was precocious with language and read and wrote early, I suspect that my parents assumed I was advanced in other ways as well, when I wasn’t. My childhood was spent feeling fearful, insecure, and using dysfunctional ham-handed methods to try and carve out a niche where I felt safe. Authority figures were mystified by my acting out and nothing they did addressed my real problem. I was bullied mercilessly, but most adults were apathetic about it because I had already been branded as a kid with a “bad attitude”. Nobody asked the right questions and I was never lucky enough to know the right words to express my feelings in a way anyone understood. To this day, on a primal level I assume that the world is a frightening place filled with failure and rejection, and that I have no inherent right to exist. I see a huge difference between myself and people who were raised by families who made an effort to address their insecurities, whether consciously or unconsciously. If I had been that lucky, I would have accomplished much more in life by now. Let this be a cautionary tale.

]]> By: KrissyFair http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-226438 KrissyFair Sat, 14 Jan 2012 16:36:27 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-226438 Wonderful post. I often think of Maslow's heirarchy when I'm feeling run down. When I'm almost begrudging the baby his 4th nursing of the night, it helps me remember that I'm meeting the bottom 4 levels of needs in one fell swoop. So rolling over to put a boob in position suddenly seems like a mighty easy way to do so much at once! Wonderful post. I often think of Maslow’s heirarchy when I’m feeling run down. When I’m almost begrudging the baby his 4th nursing of the night, it helps me remember that I’m meeting the bottom 4 levels of needs in one fell swoop. So rolling over to put a boob in position suddenly seems like a mighty easy way to do so much at once!

]]> By: Michelle http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-154718 Michelle Thu, 01 Sep 2011 12:35:35 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-154718 This has been an excellent resource for my appendix in my project module in my uni course as this links into parenting styles and the theory i have been researching! This has been an excellent resource for my appendix in my project module in my uni course as this links into parenting styles and the theory i have been researching!

]]> By: Chelsea http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-150978 Chelsea Thu, 18 Aug 2011 15:28:59 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-150978 I LOVE this! I am a giant fan of Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs, in fact, I use it to explain the basis of secure infant attachment with my clients (primarily low income, high risk new moms in South Los Angeles...no easy task!). Thanks for this great post...very clear and it gives me some ideas about how to better tpresent information! I LOVE this! I am a giant fan of Maslow’s Heirarchy of Needs, in fact, I use it to explain the basis of secure infant attachment with my clients (primarily low income, high risk new moms in South Los Angeles…no easy task!).

Thanks for this great post…very clear and it gives me some ideas about how to better tpresent information!

]]> By: Random Questions, Random Answers | PhD in Parenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-150868 Random Questions, Random Answers | PhD in Parenting Thu, 18 Aug 2011 03:58:11 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-150868 [...] blog post, but it is something that I’ve written about at length in other posts. Check out the Child’s Hierarchy of Needs and Intersecting Needs: Maslow, interdependence, parenting, caregiving, relationships, two posts [...] [...] blog post, but it is something that I’ve written about at length in other posts. Check out the Child’s Hierarchy of Needs and Intersecting Needs: Maslow, interdependence, parenting, caregiving, relationships, two posts [...]

]]> By: Caroline http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-87353 Caroline Mon, 25 Oct 2010 14:59:16 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-87353 Great visual aid! I agree with most of what you wrote, and I appreciate the opportunity to explore the topic. The only thing I would move would be the bullying. To me, bullying fits better in the "Safety" or the "Social" section, depending on the type of bullying. Some kids get hurt physically by bullying, while others get socially ostracized. Simple teasing, perhaps, impacts esteem, but what many kids experience in school goes well beyond that. (I taught have high school, and I've seen some really horrible bullying situations.) There are many great resources on the web that help kids and parents deal with bullying. However, with the recent suicides, etc. in the news, it has become a more serious issue. Great visual aid! I agree with most of what you wrote, and I appreciate the opportunity to explore the topic. The only thing I would move would be the bullying. To me, bullying fits better in the “Safety” or the “Social” section, depending on the type of bullying. Some kids get hurt physically by bullying, while others get socially ostracized. Simple teasing, perhaps, impacts esteem, but what many kids experience in school goes well beyond that. (I taught have high school, and I’ve seen some really horrible bullying situations.) There are many great resources on the web that help kids and parents deal with bullying. However, with the recent suicides, etc. in the news, it has become a more serious issue.

]]> By: phdinparenting http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-37010 phdinparenting Wed, 03 Feb 2010 18:54:19 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-37010 I agree with Anji. I don't think spirituality is a universal need, so I didn't include it here. I think that spirituality and the rituals that sometimes come with it can be one way of meeting other needs, but it is not the only one. Some people need to believe in God to feel secure, so maybe that helps them with their safety and security needs. Some people fulfill their social needs by going to church. Some people enjoy reading the bible or participating in religious events and rituals and maybe that helps fulfill their self-actualization needs. However, I don't need spirituality to achieve those needs. I fulfill them in other ways. I agree with Anji. I don’t think spirituality is a universal need, so I didn’t include it here. I think that spirituality and the rituals that sometimes come with it can be one way of meeting other needs, but it is not the only one. Some people need to believe in God to feel secure, so maybe that helps them with their safety and security needs. Some people fulfill their social needs by going to church. Some people enjoy reading the bible or participating in religious events and rituals and maybe that helps fulfill their self-actualization needs. However, I don’t need spirituality to achieve those needs. I fulfill them in other ways.

]]> By: Anji http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-36992 Anji Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:51:26 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-36992 Wendy, do all humans have spiritual needs? I have several Atheist friends who would consider themselves to be perfectly fulfilled without spirituality. Wendy, do all humans have spiritual needs? I have several Atheist friends who would consider themselves to be perfectly fulfilled without spirituality.

]]> By: Corporate Babysitter » Blog Archive » Does research into a child’s mind create ethical marketing? http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-36986 Corporate Babysitter » Blog Archive » Does research into a child’s mind create ethical marketing? Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:32:55 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-36986 [...] Ph.D. in Parenting, one of my new favorite blogs, comes the Child’s Hierarchy of Needs (and the followup, Intersecting Needs: Maslow, interdependence, parenting, caregiving, [...] [...] Ph.D. in Parenting, one of my new favorite blogs, comes the Child’s Hierarchy of Needs (and the followup, Intersecting Needs: Maslow, interdependence, parenting, caregiving, [...]

]]> By: Wendy Abrams http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/01/14/childs-hierarchy-of-needs/#comment-36985 Wendy Abrams Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:29:04 +0000 http://www.phdinparenting.com/?p=3711#comment-36985 It's always interesting to see theories that exclude the importance of recognizing the spiritual needs of the individual. Maslow ignored it completely in looking at what fulfills a person, and to this day people perpetuate his flawed model. It’s always interesting to see theories that exclude the importance of recognizing the spiritual needs of the individual. Maslow ignored it completely in looking at what fulfills a person, and to this day people perpetuate his flawed model.

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