Comments on: Intersecting Needs: Maslow, interdependence, parenting, caregiving, relationships

By: If There Is a Silver Bullet, Your Toddler Probably Hid It — PhD in Parenting

If There Is a Silver Bullet, Your Toddler Probably Hid It — PhD in Parenting — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 04:07:52 +0000

[...] with our toddlers is complicated. Just as our relationship with any human being that we are in a loving and interdependent relationship with, is [...]

By: The Happiest Mom (New Book Release by Meagan Francis) — PhD in Parenting

The Happiest Mom (New Book Release by Meagan Francis) — PhD in Parenting — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:40:13 +0000

[...] by phdinparenting on March 21, 2011 · 10 comments var addthis_product = 'wpp-262'; var addthis_config = {"data_track_clickback":true,"data_ga_property":"UA-7095988-1","data_ga_social":true,"data_track_addressbar":true,"ui_language":"en","ui_508_compliant":true};if (typeof(addthis_share) == "undefined"){ addthis_share = {"templates":{"twitter":"\'check out {{title}}{{url}} (via @phdinparenting)\'"}};} When Julian was little and I started spending time on attachment parenting forums, everyone was raving about Harvey Karp’s Happiest Baby on the Block. An anti-thesis to many of the baby trainers and baby schedulers, this book offered suggestions for creating a “fourth-trimester” like environment to help ease your baby’s transition into the world. There are mantras out there that a happy baby makes a happy mom and others that a happy mom makes a happy baby. In reality, I don’t think that one makes the other. I believe that we (babies and moms) each have unique needs, but that those needs also intersect in amazing and sometimes frustrating ways. [...]

By: Random Questions, Random Answers | PhD in Parenting

Random Questions, Random Answers | PhD in Parenting — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 03:59:10 +0000

[...] written about at length in other posts. Check out the Child’s Hierarchy of Needs and Intersecting Needs: Maslow, interdependence, parenting, caregiving, relationships, two posts that were inspired by Meagan Francis’ Mother’s Hierarchy of [...]

By: Playful Self-Discipline: Night Weaning and Sleep

Playful Self-Discipline: Night Weaning and Sleep — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 08:50:32 +0000

[...] it’s part of the foundation that all other elements of self-discipline build upon. In Maslow’s pyramid of self-actualization, physical health falls into the wide “physiological health and safety” category at the base of [...]

By: What kind of mother are you? Oppressed? Empowered? Feminist? Other? | PhD in Parenting

Sat, 18 Sep 2010 03:56:17 +0000

[...] my own needs without having to neglect the needs of my children at the same time. I believe that the needs of a parent and child intersect and that that creates interesting challenges and [...]

By: Grin and bear it? Parenting, happiness and the pressure cooker | PhD in Parenting

Tue, 20 Jul 2010 23:39:23 +0000

[...] Van Laanen, whom I wrote about in my post on intersecting needs and interdependence, was a big natural parenting and attachment parenting advocate when her children were young. She [...]

By: Asheya

Asheya — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 03:54:39 +0000

There is a psychological theory that states that our basic need as humans is not for survival but for connection. I think Sean’s comment is particularly salient to this theory, as he talks about humans being fundamentally social and spiritual creatures. Spirituality and existing in a social context is all about connecting. It would be interesting to look again at the needs of mothers and children given this as the basic need of both.

I have some very practical suggestions for parents who don’t have much of a village and don’t have much money. There may be someone in your neighbourhood, a teen or a retired person, who would like to be involved in your life for not very much if any reimbursement. It’s worth looking into if there is a thirteen year old who might like to hold your baby for half an hour after school, and maybe she would like to make a bit of money or maybe he would like some help with homework. Exchanges don’t always have to be monetary. Or maybe there is a retired person whose grandkids live far away, or who doesn’t have any, and would like to help you out with looking after your kids for a bit, just because they like being around kids. Knock on a few doors, and see what happens. Sometimes the village is closer than we think.

By: Disco Knitter » Blog Archive » A few thoughts

Disco Knitter » Blog Archive » A few thoughts — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:22:40 +0000

[...] and children have different needs, sometimes they intersect, sometimes they [...]

By: Friday links and a few random thoughts. – Parenting from Scratch

Friday links and a few random thoughts. – Parenting from Scratch — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 03:27:18 +0000

[...] This is so true. It’s really hard sometimes to balance Sadie’s physical needs, which she cannot yet meet herself, with my more advanced needs, which are easy to ignore until they pile up and I’m ready to explode. [...]

By: Ninth Carnival of Feminist Parenting « Mothers For Women’s Lib

Ninth Carnival of Feminist Parenting « Mothers For Women’s Lib — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 18:01:31 +0000

[...] Intersecting Needs: Maslow, interdependence, parenting, caregiving, relationships, PhDinParenting writes about the intersections between a child’s needs and a mother’s [...]