Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Apparently, February 26, 2009 is the inaugural Do Over Day in Canada. It is a day to redeem your wrongs and celebrate what you've done right in life. So tell me, dear readers, in the world of parenting:
- What did you get right that you are proud of?
- What did you do wrong that you wish you could redo?
I'm going to have to mull over my answer a bit and I also don't want to cloud your creative thought process with mine, so please fill those comment boxes with your answers and I'll update the post by the end of the day on Thursday with mine.
What I got right
I think that most of what I got right can be rolled into parenting according to my instincts and in line with the attachment parenting philosophy while still striving to maintain balance in my life.
My do over
I'd like to do over our approach to languages. We are a multilingual home. I speak German with my husband and we had decided I would speak English to the kids and my husband would speak German to them. Unfortunately, because virtually everyone other than my husband speaks English to the kids (me, my family, our friends, etc.) and because television is predominantly in English (we do have a lot of German DVDs too) our kids both speak predominantly English and it is harder and harder for my husband to speak any German to them because they always answer in English and either don't understand or pretend not to understand a lot of the time when he speaks German. As my do over, I wish that both of us had spoken German with the kids from the start and just relied on them picking up their English from other people. I think then we would have had a fighting chance. I'm still thinking of trying to do the switch and starting to speak German at home (except when my mom is here, so she doesn't feel left out...don't worry mom!) in the hope that things turn themselves around.
Most of my other do overs, I had a chance to do over with our second child. That includes a natural birth (had an epidural the first time), being knowledgeable about breastfeeding to avoid problematic interventions at the start (thankfully I overcame those problems), and babywearing right from the start (I wasn't aware of anything other than the Snugli for the first 3 months with my first baby, but my second one was in a ring sling within an hour of birth).