Friday, May 11, 2012
Today was an interesting day.
All day yesterday, I was swamped with work. I had a major deadline today and every time I thought I was close to being finished, additional ideas would pop into my head and I felt compelled to pursue them. Ideas, and the rabbit holes that come with them, had me up until midnight working last night.
This morning, I had to finish up that report and send it off and then I had a commitment to my son to spend some time with him working in our garden.
I was teetering on the tightrope known as work-life balance and barely hanging on, when TIME magazine dropped a bomb.
Their magazine cover features blogger and mother Jamie Lynne Grumet breastfeeding her three year old son, along with the headline:
ARE YOU MOM ENOUGH?
Why attachment parenting drives some mothers to extremes - and how Dr. Bill Sears became their guru.
My head hit the desk. Not because of the picture, but because of the headline.
Driving mothers to extremes?
Dr. Sears as my guru?
Could it get any worse than that? I'd better go read some Elisabeth Badinter to calm myself down, I thought. But no, I had deadlines and commitments, so I plugged away and eventually fell into bed at around midnight. This morning, I woke up to a request to be on live television on one of Canada's major networks at 11:00am. As the day went on, I got more requests for radio shows, for guest blog posts, for quotes for magazines and newspapers, and even an invitation to be on a reality television show about "alternative parenting practices".
I said no.
I said no over and over again, both because I had other commitments and because I'm sick of making what I think is a valuable contribution and then having an "extreme parenting" label slapped onto it (the only one who got a quote from me was Andrea Gordon from the Toronto Star because she caught me when I had 5 minutes to spare as I downloaded a file). I doubt Jamie Lynne Grumet knew she was going to be positioned as the poster child for a parenting movement that is "driving mothers to extremes" or that she'd be held up as "mom enough", while the rest of the world is obviously not.
In any case, beyond this rant here, I did agree to share my thoughts on the issue over at Care2, where I get to write what I want and choose my own headlines. Novel concept, eh? If you would like to read it, here is a link: